WHY SOME ARE INTERESTING
By OLIVENE GODFREY
Do you ever wonder what makes one person dull and the other fascinating? Maybe you think that you won't be very interesting or attractive to another person if you're difficult to understand. According to one study a few years ago, enigma fascinates. They found that the people who were considered the most interesting were those whose personalities presented something of a challenge, who were too complex to be understood and typed as "such and such."
Now we may actually like the person who we can "read like a book" better than we do the more complex person. But, we can be fascinated without liking. I know if I meet a person whose personality is a challenge, I'm fascinated and have a desire to try to find out more about him or her. Then we've heard that "opposites attract". And, for a short period often appears to be true. But,studies have shown that the like-attract-like principle holds true in the majority of cases. We tend to find people interesting, attractive and agreeable who have most in common with us.
Some human behavior experts have told us that the way to become a good conversationalist is to bone up on a wide variety of subjects. And that is good advice. But, it takes more to gain a reputation for being an interesting conversationalist. First, you must be adept at drawing people out. Then, if you really want people to adore you, cultivate the art of being a rapt and attentive listener. It's just about foolproof and works like a charm as you're permitting the other person's ego to expand pleasantly, giving him a feeling of well-being. And it's rewarding for the listener,too. (You can also learn a lot by listening.)
So you think that being beautiful or handsome goes hand in hand with an interesting personality. It does sometime happen. But, some of the world's most fascinating people have been neither exceptionally handsome nor possessed of outstanding beauty.
ON the other hand, there are many men and women whose physical attractiveness is virtually their only social asset as their personalities are dull,boring or lacking in either wit or imagination. Still, studies have shown that most people expect physically attractive people to be interesting, despite the fact that they're often disappointed.
See you next time.
By OLIVENE GODFREY
Do you ever wonder what makes one person dull and the other fascinating? Maybe you think that you won't be very interesting or attractive to another person if you're difficult to understand. According to one study a few years ago, enigma fascinates. They found that the people who were considered the most interesting were those whose personalities presented something of a challenge, who were too complex to be understood and typed as "such and such."
Now we may actually like the person who we can "read like a book" better than we do the more complex person. But, we can be fascinated without liking. I know if I meet a person whose personality is a challenge, I'm fascinated and have a desire to try to find out more about him or her. Then we've heard that "opposites attract". And, for a short period often appears to be true. But,studies have shown that the like-attract-like principle holds true in the majority of cases. We tend to find people interesting, attractive and agreeable who have most in common with us.
Some human behavior experts have told us that the way to become a good conversationalist is to bone up on a wide variety of subjects. And that is good advice. But, it takes more to gain a reputation for being an interesting conversationalist. First, you must be adept at drawing people out. Then, if you really want people to adore you, cultivate the art of being a rapt and attentive listener. It's just about foolproof and works like a charm as you're permitting the other person's ego to expand pleasantly, giving him a feeling of well-being. And it's rewarding for the listener,too. (You can also learn a lot by listening.)
So you think that being beautiful or handsome goes hand in hand with an interesting personality. It does sometime happen. But, some of the world's most fascinating people have been neither exceptionally handsome nor possessed of outstanding beauty.
ON the other hand, there are many men and women whose physical attractiveness is virtually their only social asset as their personalities are dull,boring or lacking in either wit or imagination. Still, studies have shown that most people expect physically attractive people to be interesting, despite the fact that they're often disappointed.
See you next time.
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