HANDSHAKE SHOWS LOT ABOUT PERSON & STRANGE BEHAVIOR OF CARDINAL SONGBIRD ON OUR PATIO FINALLY ENDS
By OLIVENE GODFREY
Years ago, I read that while Europeans shake hands whenever they greet one another, Americans reserve the practice for persons they haven't seen in a long time or when meeting new people. Amy Vanderbilt, the etiquette authority, says a handshake is as much a part of personality as the way we walk. And although we may modify and improve a poor handshake if someone calls our attention to it, it will still usually be just like us, assured or timid or warm or cool.
Ms Vanderbilt includes the bone crusher in her category of bad handshakes. This is the grip that makes the other person, especially a woman wearing rings, wince. Equally as bad in her book is the limp, damp handshake that seems to say,"I'm not really happy to meet you at all." Then there is the kind of straight-arm shake that seems to hold the other person off, or the octopus grip that draws you inexorably toward the shaker, who never seems to want to let go. There's also the pump-handle country bumpkin shake. or the Continental style -reserved for women- which Ms Vanderbilt says though not a hand kiss is cozy and overlong, ending in a little intimate squeeze. WOW!!!
So what does the etiquette expert consider a good handshake?
The good handshake, she says, is elbow level, firm and brisk.
And a man doesn't offer to shake hands with a woman unless she makes the move first. And whether he is shaking the hand of a man or woman, the shaker must look the person he is greeting firmly in the eye and at least, look pleasant, if he doesn't actually smile.
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Back in March, I told you about the strange behavior of the male Northern Cardinal or Redbird who lives with his mate in our yard year round. And, only this year has the songbird dive bombed against the patio glass wall almost constantly for months. Barry did some research on the Internet and found out the Cardinal fiercely defends his breeding territory from other males. And when a male sees his reflection in glass surfaces, it will frequently spend hours fighting the imaginary intruder. Our bird spent hours every day until a couple of weeks ago, flying hard into the door and wall, trying desperately to get inside the house. Then, he suddenly stopped, and Barry thinks the mating season is over, thank goodness!
See you next time.
By OLIVENE GODFREY
Years ago, I read that while Europeans shake hands whenever they greet one another, Americans reserve the practice for persons they haven't seen in a long time or when meeting new people. Amy Vanderbilt, the etiquette authority, says a handshake is as much a part of personality as the way we walk. And although we may modify and improve a poor handshake if someone calls our attention to it, it will still usually be just like us, assured or timid or warm or cool.
Ms Vanderbilt includes the bone crusher in her category of bad handshakes. This is the grip that makes the other person, especially a woman wearing rings, wince. Equally as bad in her book is the limp, damp handshake that seems to say,"I'm not really happy to meet you at all." Then there is the kind of straight-arm shake that seems to hold the other person off, or the octopus grip that draws you inexorably toward the shaker, who never seems to want to let go. There's also the pump-handle country bumpkin shake. or the Continental style -reserved for women- which Ms Vanderbilt says though not a hand kiss is cozy and overlong, ending in a little intimate squeeze. WOW!!!
So what does the etiquette expert consider a good handshake?
The good handshake, she says, is elbow level, firm and brisk.
And a man doesn't offer to shake hands with a woman unless she makes the move first. And whether he is shaking the hand of a man or woman, the shaker must look the person he is greeting firmly in the eye and at least, look pleasant, if he doesn't actually smile.
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Back in March, I told you about the strange behavior of the male Northern Cardinal or Redbird who lives with his mate in our yard year round. And, only this year has the songbird dive bombed against the patio glass wall almost constantly for months. Barry did some research on the Internet and found out the Cardinal fiercely defends his breeding territory from other males. And when a male sees his reflection in glass surfaces, it will frequently spend hours fighting the imaginary intruder. Our bird spent hours every day until a couple of weeks ago, flying hard into the door and wall, trying desperately to get inside the house. Then, he suddenly stopped, and Barry thinks the mating season is over, thank goodness!
See you next time.
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