INHIBITION SHOULD BE SELF-CONTROLLED
By OLIVENE GODFREY
A new-born baby expresses his real feelings, and exemplifies
the psychologist dictum: "Be yourself." He isn't the least bit inhibited because he is totally un-self-conscious. And he won't be self-conscious until he enters into communication with other human beings. Probably millions of people suffer unhappiness and failure because of inhibition. Now, we know that we must have a certain amount of inhibition in a civilized society. But, the individual who has a self-fulfilling, creative personality follows the course between too much inhibition and too little.
If you make a habit of rushing into situations which are bound to get you into hot water, if you constantly find yourself in trouble because of your impulsive actions, and if you are a loud talker who can never admit you are wrong, then chances are you have too little inhibition. On the other hand, if you are frightened by strange and new situations or if you consistently feel inadequate and self-conscious, always holding yourself in, then you are probably to inhibited.
Persons who suffer from too much inhibition need to practice being less careful and concerned. Don't fret and wonder what to say next. Just say it and play it by ear as you go along. Continually act and correct your actions. Some people wonder, "Should I have said that?." or "Maybe I shouldn't have done that. What if someone got mad?,"and so on. Self-criticism and self-analysis can be useful and good. But, a constant dose of it is defeating. Think of your assets, well, everybody surely has one. If not, then get to work and become good at something.
Maybe the best way to overcome one's inhibitions is to let people know when they are liked. Inhibited persons seem to fear expressing good feelings as well as bad ones. I've always admired individuals who let people know when they are liked. And I think if you start a campaign to compliment, say, three persons every day, you'll be surprised at the results. It's really easy. If you like Jane's dress tell her you do. Be direct, say, "I like that,Jane," or, "You did a fine job". Needless to say, your compliment should be sincere. Nobody likes a phony.
See you next time.
By OLIVENE GODFREY
A new-born baby expresses his real feelings, and exemplifies
the psychologist dictum: "Be yourself." He isn't the least bit inhibited because he is totally un-self-conscious. And he won't be self-conscious until he enters into communication with other human beings. Probably millions of people suffer unhappiness and failure because of inhibition. Now, we know that we must have a certain amount of inhibition in a civilized society. But, the individual who has a self-fulfilling, creative personality follows the course between too much inhibition and too little.
If you make a habit of rushing into situations which are bound to get you into hot water, if you constantly find yourself in trouble because of your impulsive actions, and if you are a loud talker who can never admit you are wrong, then chances are you have too little inhibition. On the other hand, if you are frightened by strange and new situations or if you consistently feel inadequate and self-conscious, always holding yourself in, then you are probably to inhibited.
Persons who suffer from too much inhibition need to practice being less careful and concerned. Don't fret and wonder what to say next. Just say it and play it by ear as you go along. Continually act and correct your actions. Some people wonder, "Should I have said that?." or "Maybe I shouldn't have done that. What if someone got mad?,"and so on. Self-criticism and self-analysis can be useful and good. But, a constant dose of it is defeating. Think of your assets, well, everybody surely has one. If not, then get to work and become good at something.
Maybe the best way to overcome one's inhibitions is to let people know when they are liked. Inhibited persons seem to fear expressing good feelings as well as bad ones. I've always admired individuals who let people know when they are liked. And I think if you start a campaign to compliment, say, three persons every day, you'll be surprised at the results. It's really easy. If you like Jane's dress tell her you do. Be direct, say, "I like that,Jane," or, "You did a fine job". Needless to say, your compliment should be sincere. Nobody likes a phony.
See you next time.
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