SPLENDERED LOVE IS DEMANDING
By olivine Godfrey
A romantic ballad, popular years ago, contains a profound truth-- "Love is a Many splendered Thing". Can anyone who has known the miracle of love dispute that?
Love brings a luster to our lives. A hot-tempered individual may become patient under love's gentle power. Self-centered persons give themselves away and in return have greater selves given back to them. But, love is a costly thing. Who knows why? Rarely is there gain without some pain being borne, often by the innocent.
Love knows no limits to its endurance , no end to its trust. It does cost tremendously to continue loving someone who has wronged you. But, there is no way to know the splendors of love unless we can be forgiving. Doctors tell us that resentments, anger, refusal to forgive, poison our bodies as well as our minds. Someone said that forgiveness is surgery and surgery can hurt.
We all have the same needs but we vary in our ability to fulfill them. We all need to be loved and to love. In all its forms, friendship, mother and father love, family love, romantic love, this need drives us to continuous activity in search of satisfaction. From birth to old age, we need to be loved.
And throughout our lives, our health and happiness will depend upon our ability to love.
We also need to feel that we are worthwhile both to ourselves and to others. And the person who is loved will usually feel he or she is worthwhile. But, this is not always true. A child should be loved but love does not mean a blanket approval of everything he does. And, if a child receives approval for behavior which he knows to be wrong he isn't likely to feel worthwhile.
A beautiful and capable woman often finds herself in an uncomfortable position when she is only recognized for her beauty. So, an important part of fulfilling our need to be worthwhile depends upon the ability to see that being the object of someone's love doesn't in its self give us worth.
To be worthwhile we need to maintain a satisfactory standard of behavior. We should learn to correct ourselves when we are wrong and to credit ourselves when we are right.
A person who does not learn as a child to give and receive love may spend all of his life unsuccessfully trying to love.
From time to time in everyone's life the world and our situation in it changes. And, we are required to and to unlearn to fulfill our needs under different conditions and stresses.
It's been said that often a person seeks psychiatric help because he is lacking the most critical factor for fulfilling his needs -- a person whom he sincerely cares about and who he feels sincerely cares about him.
By olivine Godfrey
A romantic ballad, popular years ago, contains a profound truth-- "Love is a Many splendered Thing". Can anyone who has known the miracle of love dispute that?
Love brings a luster to our lives. A hot-tempered individual may become patient under love's gentle power. Self-centered persons give themselves away and in return have greater selves given back to them. But, love is a costly thing. Who knows why? Rarely is there gain without some pain being borne, often by the innocent.
Love knows no limits to its endurance , no end to its trust. It does cost tremendously to continue loving someone who has wronged you. But, there is no way to know the splendors of love unless we can be forgiving. Doctors tell us that resentments, anger, refusal to forgive, poison our bodies as well as our minds. Someone said that forgiveness is surgery and surgery can hurt.
We all have the same needs but we vary in our ability to fulfill them. We all need to be loved and to love. In all its forms, friendship, mother and father love, family love, romantic love, this need drives us to continuous activity in search of satisfaction. From birth to old age, we need to be loved.
And throughout our lives, our health and happiness will depend upon our ability to love.
We also need to feel that we are worthwhile both to ourselves and to others. And the person who is loved will usually feel he or she is worthwhile. But, this is not always true. A child should be loved but love does not mean a blanket approval of everything he does. And, if a child receives approval for behavior which he knows to be wrong he isn't likely to feel worthwhile.
A beautiful and capable woman often finds herself in an uncomfortable position when she is only recognized for her beauty. So, an important part of fulfilling our need to be worthwhile depends upon the ability to see that being the object of someone's love doesn't in its self give us worth.
To be worthwhile we need to maintain a satisfactory standard of behavior. We should learn to correct ourselves when we are wrong and to credit ourselves when we are right.
A person who does not learn as a child to give and receive love may spend all of his life unsuccessfully trying to love.
From time to time in everyone's life the world and our situation in it changes. And, we are required to and to unlearn to fulfill our needs under different conditions and stresses.
It's been said that often a person seeks psychiatric help because he is lacking the most critical factor for fulfilling his needs -- a person whom he sincerely cares about and who he feels sincerely cares about him.
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