ALIBIS & GRUDGES....
By Olivene Godfrey
It is comforting to the ego to be able to alibi our failures. All of us do it from time to time. Sometimes it seems to help temporarily. But, alibis prevent us from facing the truth about ourselves which can prove costly in the long run. Alibis keep us from going to work and trying to correct our mistakes, eliminating our weaknesses and developing our talents.
It's easy to react to failure by rebelling, blaming others and circumstances beyond our control. Sometimes we nurse grudges
and resentments and continue to live in fear that something even worse might happen to us. Or, we just blame our failures on bad luck.
When faced with tragedy or a painful failure there is only one thing we can do, and that's to start rebuilding our lives as best as we can. A number of writers have penned many words regarding the necessity of trying to extract good from all of our failures-- to literally turn our failures into successes.
To achieve this state, one should take a personal inventory of every problem and failure and honestly search for conditions and causes that brought failure.
When you start to act confident, you will eventually become confident. You can't continually act like a confident person without developing real confidence. I suppose all of us are sometimes awed by dominating personalities. These positive-
asserters can often silence us and cause us to retreat. But, beneath the exterior of every person who may appear hardboiled is often to be found a sensitive, over generous nature. I've found the best way to be accepted by these people as an equal is to show them you aren't afraid of them.
To gain confidence, it is vital to plan one's life and follow the plan. The person who knows where he is going gains self confidence in the doing and eventually overcomes all feelings of inferiority.
ABOUT THOSE GRUDGES--Most of us know people who have held onto a grudge against another person for many years. The person who feels bitter about someone, no matter how justified he may think he is, punishes himself far more than the other person.
The person who lives with a grudge keeps the bitterness alive within himself, and often it affects his health, physically and mentally, an destroys his happiness.
Someone once said that bitterness feeds on bitterness, that once you remove your bitterness from your mind and heart, the bitter feelings another person may hold against you have nothing left to feed upon and must eventually wither and die. You are the sum total of what you feel about persons an things. It is how you choose to feel about whatever you think which will determine what you do with your life.
See you next week.
By Olivene Godfrey
It is comforting to the ego to be able to alibi our failures. All of us do it from time to time. Sometimes it seems to help temporarily. But, alibis prevent us from facing the truth about ourselves which can prove costly in the long run. Alibis keep us from going to work and trying to correct our mistakes, eliminating our weaknesses and developing our talents.
It's easy to react to failure by rebelling, blaming others and circumstances beyond our control. Sometimes we nurse grudges
and resentments and continue to live in fear that something even worse might happen to us. Or, we just blame our failures on bad luck.
When faced with tragedy or a painful failure there is only one thing we can do, and that's to start rebuilding our lives as best as we can. A number of writers have penned many words regarding the necessity of trying to extract good from all of our failures-- to literally turn our failures into successes.
To achieve this state, one should take a personal inventory of every problem and failure and honestly search for conditions and causes that brought failure.
When you start to act confident, you will eventually become confident. You can't continually act like a confident person without developing real confidence. I suppose all of us are sometimes awed by dominating personalities. These positive-
asserters can often silence us and cause us to retreat. But, beneath the exterior of every person who may appear hardboiled is often to be found a sensitive, over generous nature. I've found the best way to be accepted by these people as an equal is to show them you aren't afraid of them.
To gain confidence, it is vital to plan one's life and follow the plan. The person who knows where he is going gains self confidence in the doing and eventually overcomes all feelings of inferiority.
ABOUT THOSE GRUDGES--Most of us know people who have held onto a grudge against another person for many years. The person who feels bitter about someone, no matter how justified he may think he is, punishes himself far more than the other person.
The person who lives with a grudge keeps the bitterness alive within himself, and often it affects his health, physically and mentally, an destroys his happiness.
Someone once said that bitterness feeds on bitterness, that once you remove your bitterness from your mind and heart, the bitter feelings another person may hold against you have nothing left to feed upon and must eventually wither and die. You are the sum total of what you feel about persons an things. It is how you choose to feel about whatever you think which will determine what you do with your life.
See you next week.
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